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Interesting read on parental alienation

http://www.mgtowforums.com/forums/mens-general-discussion/11358-why-do-bpd-npd-mothers-sabotage-their-kids.html

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Interesting article on Shrink4Men on why mothers often sabotage their kids' chances at success in school and life. I recognized many of these behavior patterns in both my kids' moms.

Why Some Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Mothers Sabotage their Children | Shrink4Men

I've seen this with my daughter's mom. She always squaring off against teachers, daycare workers, and administrators. Sometimes she has been justified, but most times she just does this for the hell of it.

1) Exposure: If and when the BPD/NPD parent has exposed her asshattery to a teacher(s), other parents, coaches and/or school administration, she may push to change the children’s school. One could argue that the BPD/NPD is embarrassed, but many of them appear to be quite shameless — and relentless. More likely, her mask of super mom, single martyr mom or victim of my POS ex-husband mom has slipped and she has revealed which parent is the actual problem.

After the BPD/NPD parent has exposed her difficult nature, she will often concoct some reason why the “children” need to change schools and get a “fresh start.” Once the teachers et al know the true source of the conflict, the BPD/NPD can no longer conduct smear campaigns and blame shifting nor can she control the narrative. Oftentimes, this is the real reason behind frequent and/or multiple school changes.

I think most of us know how this one goes. They get joy out of inflicting as much pain on you as possible.

2) “Winning”: During and after a divorce or break-up, the BPD/NPD wants to “win,” which typically means inflicting maximum pain on you for “abandoning” her (even if she initiates the break up). Oftentimes, this individual weaponizes shared children and engages in parental alienation. She may also try to impoverish you by using the courts to extort as much child and spousal support as possible. She equates “winning” to hurting you and taking or destroying anything or anyone you care about or love and that includes the children.

For example, a former client’s ex is trying to block their eldest child from attending the best school in their area, which happens to be a free public school (grades are good enough and they won the lottery). Instead, the ex wants to keep the child in an expensive private school. Why? She manufactured some very lame reasons about it not being fair to their younger child if the older sibling is able to get a better education. They know it's bullshit, you know it's bullshit, but you can't reason with her.

In reality, it’s about the ex gouging this guy for as much money as she can. Even if she doesn’t see a penny of it, she wants him to pay and keep paying. A BPD/NPD ex often equates the amount of money, child support and assets she can extort from you with her sense of worth. Bingo! Additionally, this kind of individual does not seem to have any qualms about hurting the children in order to hurt you. As you probably already know, hurting the children is often the very best way to hurt you. Ex-Wife LOVED this tactic.

Standard control-freakery here.

3) CONTROL: The BPD/NPD is the decider. She believes she is entitled to unilateral control over the children. She often sees the children as her property and you are expected to pay a Golden Uterus rental fee for the rest of your life. Even if the court awards joint decision making regarding schooling and medical issues, the BPD/NPD will typically do her best to withhold information and cut you out of all major and minor decision-making — that is until it’s time to pay the bills for her unilateral decisions. You are then expected to pony up. Immediately.

Ultimately, you may be at cross-purposes with a BPD/NPD ex. If you are advocating for the children’s best interests, she will be argue and push for the opposite. Why? To show you who is in control. And if the children get hurt as a result, she will blame you. It's never her fault... never!

To most of us, this is old news. But to newbies/lurkers, if she acts childish and immature before she has kids, she isn't going to automatically mature once the babies come.

4) Children shouldn’t raise children: A BPD/NPD is often described as a child in an adult’s body. Emotionally and psychologically speaking, this is often true. These individuals can be incredibly immature and seem to be stuck at an early age of emotional development. Many of my clients who share a child with a BPD/NPD mother watch in amazement (and relief) as their children surpass their wives in emotional maturity, empathy and problem-solving skills.

There’s a reason our society frowns upon teenage pregnancy and teenage parents. Morality and religious beliefs about premarital sex aside, the simple fact of the matter is that children have not reached the optimal emotional maturity or intellectual capacity to be parents. The same is true of parents who are children in adult bodies. Personality disordered and/or emotionally immature parents frequently parentify their children (i.e., makes the child responsible for meeting the parent’s emotional and/or physical needs), which is a form of child abuse. I see this happening right now with my step-son, as mom doesn't have a man in her life.

Haven't had to deal with this one much yet, but I'm sure it's coming.

5) Sibling rivalry: A BPD/NPD mother is often jealous of her own children and sees them as competition for attention, love, admiration and resources. The possibility that her child may surpass her scholastically, in attractiveness, in popularity, in physical fitness, in athletic ability, etc., can be very threatening to a BPD/NPD mom. The opposite can also be true. For example, a mom who sees her child’s success as a reflection of her worth and pushes her child to succeed to the point of abuse (think Tiger Mom or Honey Boo Boo).

Sibling rivalry for one’s child can manifest in several ways. For example, your BPD/NPD wife “tattles” on the child and takes pleasure in watching you mete out punishment for misbehavior, a BPD/NPD sets up the child to get him/her into trouble, feeding the child a steady diet of fast food/junk food/processed foods to make the child fat so mom can seem skinnier and prettier in comparison (this is especially common with BPD/NPD mothers and daughters), having a scapegoat child and a “golden child” and pitting them against one another, becoming jealous when the child’s father (her ex) buys them new school clothes, takes them on vacation, to concerts and other special events and making anything that happens to child, good or bad, about her.

Not much to add on this one.

6) Bad role modeling: A BPD/NPD parent often lacks empathy, is entitled, rejects personal responsibility for her behaviors, engages in bullying and intimidation, is dishonest, has the relative morality of a small child, has chaotic and extremely dysfunctional relationships, has no sense of fair play and is completely self-obsessed. Enough said.

This is the one that I CAN'T WAIT to see play out with my daughter. She is a smart, outgoing kid who is very demanding. Mom doesn't treat her in an age appropriate manner. There will be fireworks as my daughter gets older. Once it happens, I plan on making a hard push to get my daughter to live with me. But even if I don't, I know that my daughter will pay back her mom in spades for her years of being a lunatic bitch.

7) Fear of abandonment: A BPD’s/NPD’s fear of abandonment may take the form of infantilizing their children or one of their children. This is a particularly insidious form of abuse and, in some ways, is the opposite of child parentification. A parent who engages in infantilization is unable to tolerate her child’s developmental growth toward healthy independence. Whether it is the fear of abandonment or the need to be needed, an infantilizing parent is threatened by and acts to undermine the child’s age-appropriate emerging independence (Bogolub, 1984).

In my situation, I can see the train wreck coming between my daughter and her mom. It's going to be spectacular explosion! I just hope that it leads to me getting more visitation.

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 Today i will be talking about the not made up word "Rapey" and how you can avoid saying Rapey things.

Rapey is in fact a real word and not something made up by silly billy Feminists or Manboobz minions.

Blackpill, you say that Rapey is not a real word?

 A definition at urban dictionary is not good enough for me and i decided to look up the word Rapey at another source.

  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rapey

 

 Rapey is a location in France.

 When the manboobz minions use the word "Rapey" they are talking about the french.

I wasn't even aware that the Black pill blog had so many references to the french.

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